Satinder S. Panesar

If you live in India, you often have heard from your spiritual leaders / Gurus that this world is " Maya ". But if you ask them what exactly is the Maya, they will just recite some versus from some religious book and leave you no where. I have been contemplating this for a while and came to the answer that Maya is nothing but what other people make you feel / believe. For example if you watch all the Harry Potter movies many times over a period of time, you tend to believe that Harry Potter is real. You might even search for "Hogwarts" school on google. But this isn't real, it's just a fiction created by 1 person which makes you believe it's real. I will call it as it's her Maya that makes you believe that Harry Potter is Real. So, if one person imagination can make you believe of something which is NOT real as Real than imagine the power of existence, who created us. It's that power which make us believe that we are living in a real world...

When i was a child, a read a story how 1 king had a dream where he was roughed up by the neighbor king and how it was getting difficult for him even to eat. King got so scared after the dream that he announce a big prize if someone solves this puzzle. The puzzle was Is this real or that? Many sages/ intelligent people went there to solve Kings puzzle but they failed, coz they can't understand what exactly the king is asking. After many many years, there came a sage who solved his puzzle. He said: Like that even this is not real. King asked how? He said - You are the one observer of all, and in reality always free. Your bondage is this: you see the other -- not yourself -- as the observer. King got satisfied, not only he gave him a big reward but also he became his disciple. Ordinarily we perceive our lives through the eyes of others. We use the eyes of others like a mirror. We forget the observer and become the observed. Lately, I realize  that there is no suc...

Everyday we come across many people with different facets of life. But just by the thought of meeting a Gay / lesbian sends shivers. It was same for me till I had an encounter with a Gay person but believe me your perception will change once you meet any person with the same sex orientation. It so happen that i was going home on my bike (pic below) that 1 person start talking to me. Initially, he start talking like my bike is nice & am looking very good on that, on that i said - Thank you. After this, he said can we talk for a while, i said - sure & i parked my bike. He initiated by saying that he is married, runs a dance school and often visit other places to teach classical dance. During one of his visits he came across 1 gay person and they hit it off instantly. Though he was married still his relationship with this person goes on for 2 years till that person move to another city. After that he had many flings but no relationship. I asked him, if his wife knows a...

Too many things happening around, too many disappointments, so much of frustration often lead us to wish that 2012 will come soon or this world should end soon. Was exactly my thoughts when i came to the office today but as i was walking in our office garden, i saw a flower (pic below)... it was sooo beautiful that my inner being felt so happy and all the frustrations are poof .. gone. One of the reason why we often feel disappointed is because either others say so or others are but should we have to be concerned about what "others" say? I mean people will always  say things ir-respective whether you do something or not. So why should we bother about what others say? Second, Frustrations are mainly due to coz we can't do anything or we feel we can't do anything. But do we need to "blame" ourselves for that? Ofcourse, we need to take the "responsibility" for not doing anything but blame ourselves?? No way. I just want to say one thing, wh...

According to Wikipedia - Prostitution is the act or practice of providing sexual services to another person in return for payment. People who execute such activities are called prostitutes. Actually this is what we do in the real life, we pay for the sexual services. Be it your gf or wife or muse, you pay for these services. Though the forms might be different e.g. if it's your gf, you pay with Gifts ..etc and if it's wife or muse, you pay with Household & shopping expenses. But the nature is the same . I know many people will say that with wife/muse you get your offspring, but that's all together different aspect ... different dependency. Yest. i was reading an article in the newspaper about what is Sex addiction? It says - Sex and the thought of sex is pre-dominant in their mind It's well known fact that guys all over think only about Sex or sex is pre-dominant in their minds. Though now a days there are quite a females who openly voice for their sexual ne...

I like this post only due to the reason that both are honest with each other. In this world where everythinig has been made to feel you guilty. This one is where both share a deep and honest relationship. SCHOOLTEACHER Anisha Mathur (32) and scribe Kapil Kumar (34) have been married for nine years and have a six-year-old son. They speak to MAIL TODAY about their open marriage, their other extramarital relationships, how they took the first step and coped with the challenges that followed. Their identities have been changed. IT ALL started with a trip to Bhutan to meet our friends in 2007. It was a visit that we had been planning ever since we got married. Our hosts were Kapil's friends from his college days — they had even attended our wedding. Thimphu was a feast for the eyes, and the sight of the Himalayas overwhelmed us. Our hosts treated us so warmly that it didn't take much time for us to feel completely at home with them. The itinerary of our three-day trip was plann...

We often hear that life is very short, so live your life to the fullest but have you ever thought how short is your life? Lately i have been contemplating this thought and came to know: 1) At the time of shock your whole life revolves in front of your eyes, which generally is not more than few seconds. 2) Try to sit alone at any place which does not have TV, Computer, Mobile or any other activity going on, every single second will make you look like a year. You will be amazed to see that when you think many hours has passed but in actual only few mins. Somehow the very thought of being alone, scare us. We tend to make ourselves occupy with various things. At times there are 2-3 things being continuously played e.g. at 1 end - TV is on, 2) Computer is on 3) constantly on mobile. At the end of the day, what did i do - nothing . All i did was poking into other's life without thinking/caring about my own. I also realize Life in itself is complete and does not require anybody...

Am sure like me, if you have come to other city to live, you must have come across this situation. Someone from your native land will call you up randomly and will ask - Do you know this person? S/he (they) are very famous (ah, yes popular is the word) .. you must be knowing him/her (them). It's soo strange that people dont realize that any city's population is 35-40 lacs & to know 1 person & particularly that person is highly impossible. Me: No, i dont know this person and somehow this relative felt offended as if i had done some crime in NOT knowing that person, which according to him is very " popular ". I realized that this behavior is very common among the older generations. I think the reason for this behavior is coz earlier most of the people use to live in the villages or even the cities were not very crowded & everybody knows everybody. I can say this coz when i was growing up, everyone from my city use to know us. Oh yes, our complaints us...

Let me tell you what happened today, my client sends me an email on Saturday that he is coming over to my office on Monday to discuss few things. I told all my employees about his visit and that they should be present in the office on Monday. Few people who had planned things or had to visit their families, cancelled their plans. There comes Monday morning, I got another email from the client that his Investor is coming to Bangalore for a short trip so instead of coming over to me, he is going there. In his email he wrote that even he was not aware of his investor coming to Bangalore, and he can come to my office only on Wednesday. So you can see, how investor's decision of going to Bangalore had effected so many people i.e. My Client, Me, Employees, Their families, People who are related to them. People who had planned things with them have to cancel their plans and since, they have to cancel their plans people who are attached with them will also get effected. I strongly be...

Like a new kid on the block, I'm excited to write First post of this new Decade and ofcourse this New Year. We all celebrate New Year parties, we all make New Year resolutions but that's different thing we dont " Keep " them apart from few exceptions. Yest. i was sitting with my brother and my cousin and we were discussing how are things at home ..etc. And there came a surprising and shocking news when my brother said - he is responsible for everything that happened in his life, be it good or bad. For me, this was like Wow! and shocking as well coz earlier he always blame " Others " for the things that happened in his life. For the first time, he said this - he is responsible for whatever had happened in his life. Today morning when i was contemplating that, came across that in every person's life there are 3 stages. 1) When you blame others: This is when you are young and whenever things don't go your way, instead of taking the responsibility ...